tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10342525840592354612024-02-18T20:01:59.762-08:00Quarterlife MusingsJHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.comBlogger80125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-63457833747696201422016-01-21T22:46:00.000-08:002016-01-21T22:46:03.898-08:00A Memoir of Sorts (For Class)It's ironic, a bit, settling in to an old blog that chronicled an entire journey of my life to write a brief memoir for a current class I'm taking. There's a Lazarus effect. There's what was laid to rest here rising in me.<br />
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((I don't know who's going to stumble across this. Just know why it was written and let it be at that.))<br />
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This blog was my ramblings as a young twenty something. Moments of presience, triumphs, yearnings.<br />
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Like water, I was always chasing love. It eluded and confused me for a long time, but I diligently and hungrily searched. I learned that sometimes what you need, you can only give yourself. That when it's real, it isn't questionable or unstable.<br />
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But I didn't learn that the pragmatic, light bulby way reading the words now clarifies so simply. No. I went into the woods, over the hills and far away.<br />
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In 2011 I was at the end of a thing. A heartsearing thing. I'd been embroiled in a bit of a lovemess over the winter prior. Mostly mess, some strong love of the friend variety, anxiety, and a shit ton of blind hope / intricate delusion that wove a complex tale. I was in a fit of unrequited passion for the idea of someone who was also a lifeline at the time, a friend who shows up when you need them and fills your flailing heart with something to dream about. The season before had been a wash with a romantic prospect, as the tide of that receded, awareness, pain and want were littered on the shore. The connection sort of lit up the driftwood, took the sea rime off the bottles and trinkets, energized the whole picture. But, it didn't mobilize anything. I kept feeding the flames, but stayed on the shore as mist grew thick and clouds formed, waves raged.<br />
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Alaska has always called me. Always. I've answered twice thus far. Once as an independence-craving teen, and the year I was 24. I stood up on that beach of misery and strange burned objects, and said, my life is my own. I need new perspectives.<br />
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Something about moving on feels like dying. But when you're young, healthy, somewhat robust and prone to resilience, it's merely fire for the phoenix. You rise from that shit. But first, you have to send it up in flames. I wanted that reset. I knew it. I was building tinder for months.<br />
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I was a river guide of many seasons, the post I assumed in Denali National Park as my mode for making the excursion financially doable. I spent the last money I had in the airport and hadn't even purchased a return flight upon arrival. Initially I was the only female guide. Those suntouched nights, the baritone voices of my comrades, the waves of a visciously cold and violent river changed my current. I rowed mightily, oars drenched in glacial silt. I stared in the eyes of a grizzly, alone in a boat while it pawed at the shore one morning. I hiked miles and miles alone, amongst unknown eyes in the woods of the park. I connected with someone else I fell in friend-love with, she led me up mountains and endearingly let me be her Bear Bait. She was delicious and uncomplicated and heard my stories with a full heart and simple, encouraging responses. I remember so many times where I was preoccupied with thought staring out at immense, boundless Alaskan landscapes. The mind does that. You look at one thing and see/feel something imported, from somewhere else.<br />
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Part of going to AK that year was reclaiming myself from conditioning of a lifetime of gender polarity and women's roles that I could neither fit into nor identify with. I was strong, not always soft, but soft too, depending on who was asking. I was independent, stubborn and willful, wanting for connection but also to define it on my own terms. I'd been raised more or less Mormon, the daughter of a strange pairing. By the time my mother and father divorced, she met her long yearned for goal of going through an LDS temple for her Endowment, an experience that I knew was sacred for her in earnest. My father was able to withhold her from going for years and years; as a married woman, the church's rules and patriarchy at large obligated her to comply with his wishes. His esteem for the Mormon church was at best derisive, mostly antagonistic as their own views on the church tore them further apart. I've heard each of them blame the church for their divorce in their own way. It always made me sad. Some part of me internalized that having a picture perfect Mormon forever-family was The Thing I'd missed out on in my youth and should secure for myself in adulthood. Except, that wasn't who I was. As I set out on my own career/academic path, I was anything but traditional. I wanted some of the traditional benefits - generosity, kindness, community - with none of the hangups, such as misogyny, patriarchy, inauthenticity.<br />
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Love as a search warrant I had out in the universe was, indeed, my unmet need to make peace with a turbulent first family, to construct one of my own that would be bulletproof where what I started with was broken. It was a role I created and subjected my ideas of a few men in my life into, like playing paper dolls. Here is the vision of what I need. Here are the ways in which I can selectively honor aspects I genuinely love in you, while forming the rest to fit. It wasn't conscious at the time. I became conscious of it only through two things: one, revulsion when anyone treated me the same way. It was so much more obvious. The guy I'd dated for years and not-quite-waited-for while he was serving an LDS mission once said to me "Jenn, when we get married (yes he said when, not if) - I expect you to give up skiing. I don't want the mother of my children in a wheelchair at 40." Immediately I sensed the confines and conjuring of what he wanted for me, and how it was out of sync with my true self. And yet, the breakup process was months.<br />
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The second thing that clarified my methods was that relationship I mentioned earlier, which by the end of the term in AK led to having that person I loved, and I did love him, tell me in his own slowly delivered way that I'd created him in the image of my own needs as our friendship had deepened and he had relied on it for his own well being - until I supplanted something else into it entirely and it became damaging for him. Now, there's a lot that went into that major mixup. A LOT. And in any relationship, each party can and should only own 50% of the story. His lot in it was poor communication; trusting me with all sorts of deep secrets, but not openly stating simple facts. Mine, well I've been telling you about it this whole time. And, I only own 50%. As does he.<br />
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So after one thing that cracked open Pandora's proverbial box, to worshipping an effigy of my own hopes and dreams to reconcile a lost past, loosely based on a friend, I set about that summer to actually do the thing by chasing my own dreams and identity, differently this time. The further I got, the less I could hear / think / feel in the same ways that created past climates. And part of me simply forgot, and has chosen to never fully remember. Just recognize what did/did not serve me well in the process, and build on that in future endeavors.<br />
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I'm still writing the story of my half of all my relationships, and my whole story of who I am. I've given up religion, for good. There's no ambiguity in that statement. What I have found in its stead is that its benefits do exist in this world without tradeoffs and abuses. That gender is malleable, mine a little queer at times. Confining a self to a storyline is restrictive. Sometimes we need to construct some shelter for ourselves. Sometimes, always... we construct the whole world in our view. Sometimes those view(s) serve us and others, sometimes they don't. Sometimes, they enable abuse of ourselves and those we claim to love.<br />
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In all my years writing this blog, I didn't disclose the full value of my religious wandering. I didn't disclose my own struggles with gender identity and sense of self articulately. It's my style to suffer undercover until I either explode and have to change my life/surroundings as was the case with that summer, but typically things resolve, get pretty again and I can talk about them with composure. I wish I'd talked sooner to a few people, in the maw of it. I wish I'd parsed fewer words and exposed more raw wound, and active healing. Because we're all out here on our own, and our shared fallability and humanness is what keeps us real and honest with each other and ourselves.<br />
<br />JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-79680157491941119542012-06-11T00:32:00.000-07:002012-06-11T00:32:17.088-07:00WoundsI switched hosts, and then went into hiding for a few months.<br />
Back at it,<a href="http://jennhenke.com/2012/06/11/wounds/"> <span style="font-size: x-large;">here</span></a><span style="font-size: x-large;">.</span><br />
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Much love, all y'all.<br />
JHJHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-77000645805292063282012-02-15T12:34:00.000-08:002012-02-15T13:19:42.057-08:00<span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://www.jennhenke.com/">www.jennhenke.com</a></span><br />
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Dear, beloved readers...<br />
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The time has come to grow and move along. It's been a marvelous stay here at Quarterlife Musings. I've chronicled four years of life and adventures here, and I've enjoyed every breath and every word of the experience.<br />
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I'm now officially over the apex, the proverbial "hill" of my twenties. I'm not really even a quarter-lifer anymore.<br />
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I opted to go with Wordpress for my next round of blog authorship. I want to cut a bit deeper with issues I'm willing to talk about, go further into the world and the state of being human, being alive.<br />
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This blog was the first time I <i>really </i>let my writing out of the pen and turned it loose upon the digital world. It's been a marvelous chapter of growth and learning, yet as they say, the more one understands, the more one realizes how little is truly understood.<br />
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Thank you for your readership.<br />
Thank you for the comments.<br />
Thanks for all the love.<br />
And thanks, most of all, for just being alive.<br />
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All of you on the left - you bet your sweet little blogger hearts I'll still be following you.<br />
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SO MUCH LOVE.<br />
JHJHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-46852009378328451942011-12-07T00:14:00.001-08:002011-12-07T01:38:04.436-08:00Ten Years GoneIt's been mentioned here, a time or<a href="http://jhenke.blogspot.com/2011/09/twenty-five-to-life.html"> twenty five</a> before, this thing called skiing.<br />
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In many ways, it's been the love of my life. It called, I answered. It beckoned, I came. It schooled, I learned. We were sort of married, skiing and I. It's taken me beautiful, unbelievable places, given delicious moments of triumph, wonderful people, livelihood - filled me with purpose and set the rhythm of my years.<br />
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We hit the advent of year number ten this fall. To celebrate, I damn near filed for divorce.<br />
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Fall of 2002. It was a dark night, I was just barely sixteen. I followed instructions to the basement of a building in downtown Boise. Sat down at a table of strangers and scrawled my name in red Sharpie on a sticky tag. A gregarious man with a commanding nose and booming voice took over, introducing himself and his quiet, petite feminine co-part in leading the group interview. Something like eight of us followed suit with our own introductions. I was the youngest there, by far. I wanted the job, though, wanted it with all my heart and soul. My blood ran cold with nerves but I revved the stamina of my confidence, kept pace with the group. And, was hired. I know I squealed for joy. I cashed out my entire savings account buying a complete setup of gear and clothing. I was so, so stoked. I taught all three larger-than-life ski seasons of my high school years.<br />
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August 2005, I'm just about to turn nineteen. I'm a fish out of water, blue collar daughter, going to college for the first time, had thrown myself into life in downtown Salt Lake City. I am, to be sure, clueless, green as grass, though I wouldn't know it for quite some time. I apply to work at Alta, and meet with no less than three ski school managers to interview at a bagel shop - I didn't even own a car yet. Truth be told - I'd never even been to Alta. Grandpa raised me on his endorsement; simply put, Alta was the best, and thus it was the only place I wanted to be. The first time I drove Utah State Highway 210 to join my new ski school family at a pre-season breakfast... I cried a little inside - with awe and overwhelm.<br />
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Places that made me tremble a bit to ski that first year have become my favorites in the six seasons since. I've grown into my self there, in so many ways. I've cried real tears in that canyon, been still and silent, screamed with joy, laughed and bonded with place and people and periphery and found myself a HOME in the heart of Little Cottonwood, a place that will always be sacred and special to me because there I have been ALIVE. So very much alive.<br />
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Yet last month there I was, staring down the barrel of the coming season, not knowing where to pull the trigger, stay or go, aim my sights elsewhere or focus on what I know. Had been feeling the pull to invest in the more year-round things I have going on, to settle a bit, to hold still in one place for more than six months at a time.Thought through the options, alternatives, motives...<br />
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And in the end, I'm going back. Lucky number ten, a nice, round, double digit.<br />
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Sacrifice may very well be the heart of love.<br />
Sometimes it's letting go that best teaches what we hold close and dear.<br />
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Peace to you.<br />
JHJHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-86650838740457689412011-10-23T20:09:00.000-07:002011-10-23T22:40:43.968-07:00Days (daze?) of Rest<div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I forfeited sleep in the name of new horizons and empires for many, many of my young adult moons. A deep debt is mine for the repaying; the sweet reaper has come to collect. I sleep now, routinely, deeply, hard. Some days I can't draw the lines between the lucidity of nights' dreamscapes and real-time moments. It's crazy beautiful awesome. Right about the time Freudian theory was turning a lens on sleep consciousness, Surrealist painter Salvador Dali utilized a technique of approaching sleep often sitting upright, key in hand, so that the moment sleep came, the key would drop and awake the artist. He would do his work on that buzz, and love it. I can relate. A Dali print hangs in my room - surrealism, that's pretty much life, right?</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Fall term last year was a circus. I left academia for the year following, in part drawn to a consecrated inquiry of the meaning and modes of love, swearing I wouldn't return until I had some answers. The words of the poet Kahlil Gibran speak well to how that journey has gone/is going;</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And that it has.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> It's been harrowing. Humbling. Potentially humiliating. Love demands its price, even as a seductress, even as the light dancing just ahead on the dark and thoroughly barbed path. It will be worth its weight (or not) in both risk and reward. Jonathan Franzen wrote beautifully on the subject in the NY Times, <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/29/opinion/29franzen.html?pagewanted=all">read it here</a>. The takeaway quote, the line that keeps reaching back at me - "...<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; line-height: 16px;">the dirt that love inevitably <em style="color: black; font-style: normal;">splatters on the mirror of our self-</em><wbr></wbr><em style="color: black; font-style: normal;">regard." There's some serious dirt on this mirror, and justly so. </em></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; line-height: 16px;"><em style="color: black; font-style: normal;">Also said by Gibran, and to this a hearty AMEN from me -</em></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; color: #999999; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 19px;"><i>"For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.</i></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I have learned often and repetitiously that <i>I really don't know love at all, </i>as said by the luminous<i> </i>Joni Mitchell. Her voice in youth had the clarity and purity of a brook, a bright silver bell; the version of the <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=brD9HfJRkCA">Both Sides from the seventies</a> is charming, yet the pure weather in her vocals, the sound and <i>feel </i>of thirty years' wisdom and maturation conveyed in her <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tKQSlH-LLTQ">performance of the song in 2000</a> is... words fail. I suggest them both, in succession. Something tells me, despite her modesty, I could sit for hours listening to miss Mitchell's findings on love and life. </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; line-height: 19px;">Yet by now you're probably sick of my thoughts on the subject. I am. </span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; line-height: 19px;">T</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; line-height: 19px;">his self-imposed sabbatical indeed changed my course as well as my courses; what I'll register for in the following semesters as much as who I'll be as I travel forward from here</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; line-height: 19px;">, forever. Grateful for the words, people, philosophies and experiences that have graced my path. </span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 19px;">And I got enough, more than enough of what I went inquiring after, and so - it's time for me to go back to class, back to scholarly endeavors, weed through it all and put it to good use. </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 19px;">In other news, it's been another beautiful fall in the Wasatch. I re-enter into this valley after summers away in awe and appreciation for the days of ever-cooling warmth and brilliant foliage, temperatures dancing the seasonal transaction, Old Man Winter awakening from his months of slumber, ready to turn the key on skiers' surrealist dreams and paint these mountains white with powder ripe for the turn-taking...</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 19px;">Blessings of peace. </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 19px;">-JH</span></div>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-10912947135675228332011-09-11T22:21:00.000-07:002011-09-12T06:51:35.568-07:00Twenty Five to LifeI hear the winter of 1986 was excellent. Perhaps my conception was the grand finale to one of those blessed days on the mountain which decrescendo over a winding descent into city lights, having spent, incinerated, seemingly every cell's energy - only the warmest coals left glowing after stoking the fire of life with laps over fresh fallen snow.<br />
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A little prematurely, four weeks so, the hormones and essences of life synchronized between child in utero and host mother elected Labor Day for the waters to break way for my arrival. Stubbornly, breached, I delayed that til the early hours of Tuesday, arrival crescendo to emergency C-section, all six pounds of me exiting the womb at 2:44am, September 2. My mother thought I was beautiful. Everyone else noted the misshapen nose still imprinted and off balance from the curves of nesting against her spine. They called me Yoda. She called me Jennifer Elaine, after my paternal grandmother. The resident staff of St. Luke's labor and delivery ward took note of only the latter of the names, thankfully.<br />
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A heap of living between then and now, but that was the moment celebrated this weekend as I traveled the miles between Salt Lake and Boise for a time that must be among thousands by now, musing on the precious and temporary conditions of life. Thought that of all we have as human beings, no matter who we are - none of it couldn't be lost or dissolved in the contents of a day. Not even our stories are entirely our own. We drift through these moments on borrowed time and at the mercy of a universe of changing circumstance. We can take ownership over what we give, but not what we get given.<br />
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Not knowing what tomorrow may bring - what's to be invested in? Relationships, experiences, whatever makes one grow in love and gratitude - that's all I'm truly banking on, at least. I drive long obnoxious miles for that end because really, such is what I'm driven by. The cost dissolves in the dividends: love is worth its expense, worthy in spite of or maybe even because of - its impermanence.<br />
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As the now reigning majority, mine was a home broken over time, love and lust lost between the entities that created me. Even fleetingly, the powers of attraction, passion, lust and ideally love witness their lasting merit; entire lives are borne of mere moments shared, in connection, in synthesis, whether the instincts and emotions make it for the long haul or even through the night.<br />
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Adulthood is no longer pending. Not at twenty five. You're in it, whether acted upon or not. I've got ideas about what I want, have the foundations established in the first half of my twenties and then some, have forward-thinking hopes and intentions. That doesn't really matter, though. I could die tomorrow or live a thousand years and what surfaces of meaning in all of this, what I've spent the last week plus change musing on, is real, meaningful love for life and my people, which doesn't require perfection or poise or even a state of being "pulled together." As you may know, I'm often scrambling at the wiles of a full schedule and deep seeded wanderlust - grace, patience and tolerance go a long way in preserving relationships in the tumult of life.<br />
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Perhaps the most remarkable transition of adulthood is going from approaching the world for the taking, the exploit, with unskilled-as-of-yet hands and heart, demands, needs, expectations - to pure, whole hearted love that seeks to give, understand, nurture, as is, for better or worse, knowing intuitively that it's worth it even if painful and with invisible returns.<br />
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Not that I'm there. I surely haven't fully arrived, but the wheels in me are turning ever forward. Learning continues. Loving, so much that it hurts is a choice I've made, openly, knowingly, with intention. In the act of prayer, more than a few times I've been returned powerfully that I am to be an active part of the answer, that the universe has invested in me; I have been given much - and even in the act of making requests, they require action, choices, discipline at the junction of awareness and loving. Giving back. Knowing or desiring to know how, when, where, why, to whom and what is to be given. And firstly - to love oneself enough to give love and support inwardly, which makes all the difference in reaching out.<br />
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Another transition: I've been thinking about Facebook and what it implies in its brand of "friendship." In contemplation of technology's artifice, the opportunity provided for people to interact in means unprecedented - much of which I'm grateful for, there's a magic in being to connect with friends past and see how their stories are unfolding, and knowing things and events are happening with little effort can be really great. However, sometimes retaining connection is not for the better, is not appropriate, windows that would naturally and/or intentionally shut are kept open by social media. I don't believe the validity, importance, value of a connection is diminished in its end any more than a novel or movie - endings are part of life. When a connection is grown out of, moved on from, finitely over - is it appropriate or healthy that either party be updated about the comings and goings, relationships and current images of the other? Never in the history of mankind has this been the case, at least not without a <i>human</i> third party, or stalking - which was previously regarded as sociopathic, creepy, and illegal. Is this a normative change we want to embrace? Perpetuate?<br />
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I've 'unfriended' very few people since I first joined the site in 2007. I've never gone through and 'weeded' as I've heard some people describe. It all seemed sort of like human farming, a bit of a grotesque approach to connection.<br />
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But I get it now. I've heard expressions of open contempt and derision for contacts maintained online, kept for entertainment, to feed competition, pity and criticism. That's not a friendship, and that's not honest. I think the more we feed into that sort of approach and even abstractedly christen it friendship, the more a falsely presented environment of scrutiny, criticism, unkindness and ultimately injury is fostered. It's sick, it's cyclical, it's harmful, and I want no part in reinforcing that. I want to be a real person and share loving, whole acceptance with others. I don't want to edit my posts for audience, I want to just post, as I am, with integrity and a whole heart.<br />
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I did some housekeeping this weekend and closed a few chapters of Facebook "friendship." My guiding principle in my decision was this - would I, or could I, sit down and share a meal with this person, exchange stories and feel sincerity and mutuality and human goodness? There were no's, and logistically and practically I'm not going to be seeing most of my FB contacts anytime soon, some maybe ever. But I did recognize that I have much to be grateful for and many connections to nurture with time and over good food in the future.<br />
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25 to life: I'm conciously taking you full on. Being real. Loving hard. Come what may.<br />
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Cheers to that.<br />
-JHJHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-71487383575828284412011-08-20T17:05:00.000-07:002011-08-20T18:09:55.200-07:00All Au-gust-oAdmittedly, I've had a lot of time on my hands lately.<br />
I've been more or less unemployed for three weeks.<br />
It's been scrumptious.<br />
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<div style="text-align: right;"></div>Flew back to the Lower 48 earlier this month after spending some time in the charming hamlet of Eagle River, Alaska, reconnecting with a dear friend and getting to know her sweet baby boy.<br />
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In flight somewhere over Canada whilst descending latitudes, I saw the stars for the first time this summer. Completely mesmerized, I pressed my face against the glass and was both very still and abuzz with celestial ecstasy. The first nights back I slept out in the back yard, still in awe of a dark sky full of twinkling stars, such a novelty after the months of midnight sun. I can't conceive of ever taking that for granted again. <br />
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By design, the day I landed my family and I gathered at Deer Valley to celebrate the marriage of my cousin-brother, we're three months apart. It was a tender, beautiful fete and I'm grateful for his love and happiness, his bride is a perfect compliment to all that he is and will be a treasured presence in our family.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhSWUCt3v5IVt-ErbY0RoclJQ9vxVwW_blV_xUh-Ffu6JiLODMq_mWOaNSOP32E9mCiaWp57cQL9OyZzDlQzx4NjDw0RhjWKItjwFh1axOboquTy8m5OS36ucZLW1FQEd43x-2MeZsjqAn7/s1600/1493.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhSWUCt3v5IVt-ErbY0RoclJQ9vxVwW_blV_xUh-Ffu6JiLODMq_mWOaNSOP32E9mCiaWp57cQL9OyZzDlQzx4NjDw0RhjWKItjwFh1axOboquTy8m5OS36ucZLW1FQEd43x-2MeZsjqAn7/s200/1493.JPG" width="200" /></a>Spent a few days in SLC moving things out of a dusty 5x10 and into new-to-me space before skipping town, in hot pursuit of sunshine, ocean and bestfriendship. Met up with my beloved sisterfriend in Vegas, where another dear friend had graciously lent his place. We headed for the ocean and a sailboat in Mission Bay. Got mani/pedis, laid purposelessly on barely warm sand beneath overcast skies, listened to the ocean, enjoyed the simplicity of each other's company. Giggled and conversed over plates of delicious food and walking aimless miles of unfamiliar city streets in Encinitas, La Jolla, San Diego, Solana Beach and surrounding. Swam. Loved. Just were, as is.<br />
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After she flew out I returned to Vegas, spent a smattering of days in pampered, soulful exile excepting a few meaningful connections via phone. Overlooking the endlessly moving human zoo, glitz, money spending opportunities, rich food that this city is known for, and I admit - I'm dazzled. My crusty, bitter Vegas hating environmentalist face has retired... because in the wilderness of Alaska, so very far from all this - I gained perspective and appreciation. It is what it is. It has a place, I'm glad for it, happy to experience this... from a distant bird's eye perspective at least. I went to Harry Potter IMAX 3D at the Palms yesterday. HP was everything I'd waited for, just the escapist experience I'd craved. Walking through the Palms was so classically Vegas, it's the casino host to the Playboy scene, which is boldly advertised from flashing screens and building-length banners, everywhere. Vegas is relentless. Trashy. And kinda just perfect for itself. I've treasured my time here and absorbed much sun as souvenir.<br />
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</tbody></table>Tomorrow I suppose I'll mosey home, and create a new meaning of the word, yet again.<br />
Pick up what still exists of the pieces I left behind in SLC.<br />
Forge synthesis of new and old rhythm, relationships, life.<br />
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By all definitions, it's been a friggin' fantastic summer.<br />
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</tbody></table>Also, I'm almost 25. EEEeeeeeek!<br />
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JHJHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-48059505551600928722011-07-30T02:34:00.000-07:002011-08-01T10:43:57.757-07:00Not That SpecialYesterday someone told me point blank:<br />
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"You know, you're not that special."<br />
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It was kind of... a relief, actually. Not that I walk around cooing to myself about perceived specialness by any means. But I was reading a blog earlier today about a child born with EB - which may very well be the most vicious disease I know of. A blog about the tragedies in Norway. Another blog about one modern girl's brutal and heartfelt journey toward finding love and family.<br />
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And it's true, I'm not <i>that</i> special.<br />
No one is.<br />
We're all just human.<br />
The universe has many stories.<br />
Everyone's experiences are worthy.<br />
No one is better than anyone else.<br />
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I think competition kills love, a little bit.<br />
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Maybe because competition is made of pride, a pride that puts our ego at the forefront of our concerns in a mode of diminishing returns - the more we concern ourselves with our own interests, the less we see of the world around us, the less our real needs are met, the less we are able to see anything else, and consequently <b><i>really see</i></b> ourselves and others as we are - merely humans. Ezra Taft Benson's words on the subject <a href="http://education.byu.edu/edlf/archives/prophets/bewareofpride.html">here</a> in a talk that's relevance and application has only grown over time for me.<br />
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Just musing. Thinking. It's late.<br />
JHJHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-90148886390640835592011-07-08T02:36:00.000-07:002011-07-08T02:42:32.110-07:00On the RunWell, I done did it. Left the biz, family, friends, my once-was house, comfort zone, habits... essentially, my world. Came to Alaska, and love Alaska I do. Of the many reasons for being here, being on the run is one. In the advent of the second month of my stay, I'm breaking stride. It's getting fun. I've got rhythm, I've got soul.<br />
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In case you haven't seen the TED talk linked to the left side over there, right beneath my profile, you might want to. A few times, even, maybe. That little number changed and continues to change my life - which really has been quite full of change. A big part of that comes from having parents who are radically different from one another and also got divorced - having to bounce back and forth between different houses, lifestyles, rules, habits, everything. Absolute torture and an opportunity to foster resilience and dynamism, all at the same time, and the foundation for the whole gypsy lifestyle I've pursued in my years on my own.<br />
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A few things I've learned or been thinking of, lately...<br />
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<ul><li>Being smart isn't worth anything at all if one can't figure out how to be happy, too. </li>
<li>Being "cool" has zero street value if one can't also be kind and authentic.</li>
<li>Generally, situations are what you make them, and just about everything requires hard work. </li>
<li>When I don't take things personally but instead look for the bigger picture or deeper factors, the more accepting I am of others.</li>
<li>Creativity isn't easy to foster and give breathing room in the messy chaos of life, which makes it even more rewarding and beautiful when it rises and exists.</li>
<li>Changing the setting may let the character emerge in a rewarding or even necessary way. Transplanting myself to new places has always helped evoke the purest things in me yet I am what I am, no matter where I carry that to. </li>
<li>The internet and a smart phone practically makes it possible to be a little bit of everywhere, all at once, on demand - which is about as good or as bad a thing as one makes of it. </li>
</ul><div>That's it for now, more words coming soon. Peep the vid! </div><div><br />
</div><div>Peace and love.</div><div>JH</div>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-69816885760551531982011-06-27T04:04:00.000-07:002011-06-27T04:05:17.382-07:00Images from AK<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">What would summer be without?</td></tr>
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</tbody></table><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-37613830191034983092011-05-27T15:51:00.001-07:002011-05-27T15:52:37.707-07:00Coping with Change<div class="MsoNormal">Writing in a vacant C4, no longer a home but a real estate parcel primed and ready for the snatching. I’m a guest, not resident. Accessory, not integral. I didn’t want this change. I’ll just admit – it’s been excruciating.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Intuitively, a part of me has known for a while that the end of this chapter was coming, although not long ago I thought I'd return to this same place, life post-Alaska. Variables redirected fate. I lived here longer than anywhere of my choosing, changed this place to reflect something of myself, was changed by it in return. Yet all the comfort, investment, and desire in the world couldn’t keep me within these walls. I’m back to rolling stone status, moving forward on the momentum side of the summit having survived the upslope, aka the ‘shove for your life against gravity lest ye be trampled’ part. Even though it’s passed now, that’s what I want to write about – the hard part, and coping.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I’ve babied myself at times, said sweet and supportive words internally to keep the motor running and spirits afloat in all this, and been not only better off for it but surviving and capable because of it. Days ago out of a similar need for comfort a child displays toward a blanket, I wanted to wear a specific jacket, black, zippered, soft lining. An easier option – polyester, pull over, green, not what I wanted - was in arms reach; my pragmatic side said take it and move along, but the part of me needing comfort wailed in revolt. I wanted to do the tasks, knowing I had to – just wanted to do them while wearing that jacket. Went out of my way to accommodate myself, happier inside and comforted even in such a small gesture. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I slept in a few days, saw some movies, let other people make most of my meals, made a trip to Boise I didn’t have time for, chose to just be with the people I love, enjoying the moments without dragging the upheaval in. I’ve finally, after all these years, learned the value of escapism as well as kindness to self. And, letting things be. Crucial lessons I was desperately in need of. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">For the record, I’m not going ALL soft. I went to the dentist this week. Overburdened and breathless, I was running late. They didn’t know if they’d have time for the procedure, but were trying to accommodate knowing that I’m leaving for the summer. To save time, I asked them to skip the anesthesia. They looked at me like I was crazy or kidding but proceeded to drill, commenting on my apparently remarkable tolerance, lack of flinching/whining/tears. If they only knew that those ten minutes were the easiest and least painful of the day, a respite of sorts. Moving really, really sucks. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">However, I’ll blow my cover, anesthesia comes out of a needle - I really am a bit of a pansy. ;)</div><div class="MsoNormal">JH</div>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-62944121081289429572011-05-14T14:13:00.000-07:002011-05-14T16:37:23.143-07:00Making, Taking, Breaking WavesI'm back on board as a card carrying, Wilderness Medicine Institute certified Wilderness First Responder - may I help you? :) That's our a patient pickup line - and one I'd rather not have to use, for the record.<br />
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</div><div>Been thinking of cumulative life experience lately, and the little things I'm grateful for. Even boring and tedious things have significance and transferability into bigger experiences. Everything counts.<br />
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The WFR experience has been a good one and provided a wealth knowledge drawn on in many moments following my initial certification in 2006. Aside from first aid stuff on the river and in the mountains, I've been first or nearly first on the scene of three major highway accidents and treated a half dozen strangers for shock while waiting for urban medical teams to arrive. Shock is a fascinating biological response; when the body experiences trauma, ie blood loss, it responds by shunting (<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-small;">my new pet word</span>) its juices (<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-small;">literally, blood</span>) to the vital organs. </div><div><br />
I've thought often about this idea of shock, the shunting of energy to where it most matters - and how that goes beyond physical survival and into the broader picture of my life. You know, you put your energy where it counts kinda thing. Something I've mentioned before. So much of this winter has been seismic, shifting, grand scale changes in my mind and heart. Shock comes in many forms. </div><div><br />
</div><div>This past week I was sitting on the banks of the flood swollen Bear River just over the Idaho border north of Logan, renewing my Swiftwater Rescue certification. It was raining, a cold dreary kind, a pervasive dampness sank past the layers, through the neoprene and flesh of me into my bones. I'm sitting there attempting not to shiver, mentally preparing myself to dive sidelong (<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">never head first!</span>) into the current, swim for my life through a wave train, hop on the bank and ready myself with a rope to stage rescue for the next swimmer. It crosses my mind that clean warm fresh folded laundry, making hot meals and nursing babies might not be so terrible. Whoa. Did I just think that? </div><div><br />
</div><div>I've loved every minute of this gypsy life. This is who I am, where I've been, what I've gleaned from the earth and my presence on it and how I've chosen to actively<i> live</i>. I'll love life still, no matter where my paths carry me, but I think a part of the fight in me has outgrown the wanderer's shoes, and that I have nothing further to prove on this front. This has been a long time coming, often in my blog I've spoken of travels, love, independence, futures unknown and moments ripe for the relishing. Of making space and making waves. I've seen more than a few of my ilk go into a headlong battle against growing up, loving and being loved, settling down - and people have lost that battle, or won it in a way traditionally not accepted, depending on your perspective. I don't know the meaning of all things - but I do know that in me there has been a shift in willingness, intention, and a death of a former aversion - and I'm okay with that.</div><div><br />
</div><div>I'm in the rounds of final preparation for Alaska, takeoff is in nineteen days. Certifications are finished. Still have some gear to purchase, much to do. A surprise not wholly unanticipated cropped up in the game plan: I have to move out of C4. Like right now, before I leave for AK, rather than parking my car and domestic implements there in my absence and walking right back in the door of my established life and domicile upon return.The HOA has decided to take action on some issues and as a result, they'll be demolishing part of the apartment I've occupied. I can't stay even if I want to. I don't love this, it's not what I had intended - except in that there's nothing I can do about it, so I'm just going to take it head on with acceptance and see what the future holds. That's all you can do with some things in life. Like a medical diagnosis, a death, a devastation - walk forward with juicy loving acceptance and faith in the unknown. </div><div><br />
</div><div>I know this beautiful woman, a poet, a dreamer, a teacher - in the throes of a personal tragedy, she tattooed a symbol of sap into her arm to represent active healing, bleeding willingly, having capacity to recover. It's stuck with me and I've thought often of that idea as even minor things have come up on the horizon. Much of my supposed anchors have been cut loose in the past few months, and though I feel sort of adrift in this freedom - in other regards, I have never felt so sure that my course is being divinely guided and directed for the best outcomes. </div><div><br />
</div><div>AK, here I come. The countdown is on. </div><div>Much love, y'all.</div><div><br />
</div><div>JH</div>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-80954641662559929552011-04-15T14:01:00.000-07:002011-04-15T14:33:21.938-07:00Delicious Spring On the road late last night, unexpectedly sharing the miles with an acquaintance who easily became an endeared friend. We drove from Salt Lake into the starry, moonlit hues of desert night, slept on the floor in a house on the outskirts of Moab, full of the music of exhale from sleeping people now bound for Cataract Canyon, except me. Tomorrow I start a three day course to re-certify my <a href="http://www.nols.edu/wmi/courses/wildfirstresponder.shtml">WFR</a> in preparation for the 2011 river season.<br />
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Out of habit, gravitational pull, draw of the heartstrings maybe, the first thing I did upon leaving this morning was head toward <a href="http://www.utah.com/byways/upper_colorado.htm">river road</a>, finding this surprise at the turnoff....<br />
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Last year I was devastated to find it sealed and padlocked, the water deemed undrinkable by some force for quality control. It may not be in it's heyday anymore, <a href="http://jhenke.blogspot.com/2008/12/moab-getaway.html">(click here for a previous post)</a>, but the water was as delicious and cool as ever, and I felt as though reunited with a particularly sweet and familiar vein of the lifeblood of the planet. A view from further up the road:<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4KCs5F9AbHTOxQDS_bDptOR3-fiY8djnJzS45yHmVzd2DMNl-LdE7nyQw-N43eNyHwBWCLDjbV4TzhXJZZEH_H2_Boovm11ei96W4NqgLYNbIILF0wbD4snxeA1x7Ni987OZlErxrbGl7/s1600/068.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="239" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4KCs5F9AbHTOxQDS_bDptOR3-fiY8djnJzS45yHmVzd2DMNl-LdE7nyQw-N43eNyHwBWCLDjbV4TzhXJZZEH_H2_Boovm11ei96W4NqgLYNbIILF0wbD4snxeA1x7Ni987OZlErxrbGl7/s320/068.JPG" width="320" /></a></div><span class="Apple-style-span"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: italic;">Castle Valley alive and well, basking in sleepy morning sunlight and shadow. </span><br />
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After cruising over the LaSal Loop Road, enjoyed the first sleep in the back of my newest vehicle - delighted with the results, the space is quite cozy and more than I've ever had. Awoke lazily, multiple times overlooking red rock and calm water, deeply pleased to be here and grateful for all the opportunities and paths that led to this point.<br />
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Recent business milestones: I hired an accountant yesterday and hit the one year mark of licensing and operation in March. That first year was by far the most sleep deprived and stressful of my existence. But guess what? The "baby" has survived, thrived - and with the support of some fabulous help for which I am grateful, it stands on it's own two feet and is still there, happy and functioning, when I return from my travels. The accountant had some great ideas for growth and expansion and upon return from Alaska, I'm going to dive head first toward that goal... and cross my fingers that the world doesn't oust itself from existence in 2012. <br />
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Although honestly, were this the sunset of humanity's existence as we know it, by and large I'd be content with how I've spent it. Where I've sown and labored in business, in my heart, family and relationships otherwise - there has been and continues to be a sweet reaping. I've learned, loved, and lived much, and have every intention of continuing as the year unfolds - come what may.<br />
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More adventures on the horizon, more posts to come.<br />
JHJHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-89683089545322764422011-03-09T17:33:00.000-08:002011-04-15T14:46:18.787-07:00Returning to the SourceFlashback to my junior year of high school in Boise, Idaho - a booming chamber of a room that was later to host prom, dressed then in the emblems of academia, clothed tables and postered curtains backdropped the plastered smiles of college representatives, stacks of pamphleted propaganda. I had a hard time taking any of it seriously - my only desires for college at the time were compulsory, wrought by peer pressure (having an answer for the questions of where I was headed) and expectation - from teachers, not from my parents. Academics were never a point of priority in my upbringing, I didn't even know the meaning of Bachelor's degree until I was a semester in to community college - but that's a different story. The college fair was to me, at the time, nothing more than a glorified reason for another excused absence.<br />
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While there, I was drawn to the muted and subtle curb appeal of Alaska Pacific University, where images of rugged landscapes played backdrop rather than common, recognizable collegiate insignias. While I browsed, the rep informed me of a get-to-know-us trip for students my age in the lower 48, offered to market the great State of Alaska, its largest private school and the lifestyle and pedagogy it embraced, which they called Active Learning - totally caught my attention. I was Sold with a capital S. Signed up immediately and asked Mom for permission later (see also: begged for forgiveness). I paid for the trip from my ski instructor wages that season, and Mom reluctantly and eventually contributed airfare, but not before many embarrassing phone calls to the school to make sure I would be okay. To help me prepare, the library at the family cabin in central Idaho was scoured, multiple editions of Alaskan Bear Tales left on my pillow by loving cousins and Gramps that Memorial Day weekend. The gruesome stories of people being mauled to shreds heightened fear, but amplified the overall meaning of going. I was doing something Big. That I chose. And walking into the unknown. I embraced that.<br />
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So for two weeks of the summer of 2004, my nights were only as dark as midnight sunset followed by a hazy dawn. I wasn't mauled by bears, though we did stow our food in caches while camping on the beaches of Resurrection Bay, arriving by sea kayak on emerald water pooled beneath breathtaking vistas of glaciers descending from massive peaks. I hiked one of the most oft summited peaks of the United States and stared across the Pacific Ocean at the majesty of its tallest, Denali. I dove headfirst into the no-no of romance with a tripmate - gorgeous, wild, irreverently blissful young lust. I saw Anchorage, Seward, Wasilla, Mat-Su, and everything in between. I met my first female river guide, who taught me to read the frigid water of the Kenai River and sang the praises of the Nenana - the glacier fed, barely subarctic, rapid-wealthy body of water that creates the natural boundary of Denali National Park. That, I do believe, was the inception of my desire to guide.<br />
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Flash forward now - I've formally accepted a position as a guide on the Nenana River for the 2011 with <a href="http://www.denaliraft.com/">Denali Raft Adventures.</a> I report in June. I thought weeks ago when the opportunity first came up that it was to be a compartmentalized experience, with a tidy beginning and end - but change comes heavy when it enters my life it seems, and the solid bookends I was banking on to surround this experience have begun to wobble and dissolve. Who knows what the future may hold - yet again, I walk forward into the unknown. Embracing it. And I'm feeling pretty amped, and ALIVE.<br />
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There you go, official announcement. Scrap whatever else I've said...<br />
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<b>Gypsy Life 2011: Alaska</b><br />
<b>JH</b>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-60493256475583554782011-01-26T22:15:00.000-08:002011-01-26T22:15:39.020-08:00JHole<div class="MsoNormal">Woke up this morning in a condo overlooking the Wildlife Preserve in Wyoming. Enjoyed a delicious breakfast with my friend and her daughter, then the three of us piled in the car and hit the Wyoming 22 heading to Jackson Hole.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Teton Village was awash in the damp grey of an inversion, but mid way up the mountain we sailed into skies that were nothing but blue, slopes radiant and sparkling in sunlit white. Crowded into a cattle car (see also: tram) with a hundred other bodies clad in a rainbow assembly of outerwear, clutching skis, we’re all twitching with ye ol’ ski jones, and cheers erupted when the sun came out to play. The goods from the last storm cycle were soft and luscious, if you knew where to find them – and our Clinician did, oh boy did she ever, all day long.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I’m here for ongoing training as a Professional Ski Instructor. This has been part of that life – road trips, new faces, feedback on my skiing from fresh eyes, new places, different snow and conditions and cultures. I love it. Or at least, I love it when I actually stop and think about it. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">As much as I try to foster an ‘attitude of gratitude’ – I often catch myself abiding some tired and unappreciative outlook without questioning it, owning it, or being fully conscious of it. Today on the Tram while psyching up, I deconstructed the experience. The masterpieces of engineering and technology that take us up the mountain and allow us to travel down whilst staying warm and safe and dry, the entire industry built around it, the hype and the fun. The fact that as BIG as this world has been to me, in the big picture of the world, only a teeny minority that gets to participate. I feel sort of sad about that, and unjustly privileged, and yet glad I’ve been able to share it with hundreds of students over the years. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Just some informal musing. Tucking in for the night so I can get up and get after it again tomorrow…</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">JH</div>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-35735300444306624512010-12-26T12:28:00.000-08:002010-12-26T13:28:49.021-08:00Christmas comes but once a year...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 15px;">And I hope you’ve spent it well in the hearts, if not the arms, of those you love. </span><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 114%; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-pagination: none;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 114%; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-pagination: none;"><span lang="en-US" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 114%;"> Salt Lake City was under the canopy of a foggy winter haze this morning as I left for Little Cottonwood, but grey skies have limited stature. The atmosphere thinned midway up the canyon; Alta basked in the glory of brilliant white sparkling beneath bright and cloudless blue sky. I reflected today on Christmas 2005, when I’d planned to stay at my first apartment downtown, thinking I was grown up. I admitted a teary eyed defeat that night, and my roommate and I drove my Honda Civic into Boise in the wee hours of Christmas morning. Every year since, I trekked to be with family for this one day, returning as quickly as I left to Alta to teach skiing. This year, I stayed.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 114%; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-pagination: none;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 114%; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-pagination: none;"><span lang="en-US" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 114%;"> A number of chapters came to a close over the course of 2010, the Civic being among those. A few hundred thousand miles of memories on the odometer, I sold it for a fistful of cash and an iPod last spring, the first in a succession of 2010 vehicle transactions. What happened to the cash, couldn’t say - but I did figure out how to use the iPod last week. Guilty as charged on all counts of electronic media ignorance - except for my continuing love affair with Microsoft Excel, which, with a few other forces in the universe, helped me put together a small but official, licensed, registered cleaning company at the start of the year. A blessing and a curse ever since, but one I am most certainly grateful for.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 114%; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-pagination: none;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 114%; mso-pagination: none;"><span lang="en-US" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 114%;"> I retreated to the woods and rivers of central Idaho for part of the summer, but was pulled out of the reverie by responsibilities (see above) in Salt Lake, dancing back and forth over dashed highway lines between peace and duty. The limbs of Wasatch trees got naked like they do in the fall, but my own shedding and simplifying in preparation for winter didn’t happen – things got heavier, collided, started decomposing on the branch, and I finally had to just shake free of some of it and let go of a few responsibilities and a little pride. Fear not, I have pride to spare, I survived, my business survived. My academic and career plans took some hard adjustment, more of which is sure to come.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 114%; mso-pagination: none;"><span lang="en-US" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 114%;"> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 114%; mso-pagination: none;"><span lang="en-US" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 114%;">Speculating about the possibilities for next year and the grandiose plans and dreams it may host would have been more fun than sharing the imperfect, realistic details of the past year. But if there’s anything that I’ve learned in the past twelve months, it’s that life is subject to change and based largely on externalities, that I don’t rule the world, and the power I have is dictated in the choices I make with what I’ve been given. That’s pretty much all I’ve got, in a nutshell. I’ll take it.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 114%; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-pagination: none;"><span lang="en-US" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 114%;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 114%; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-pagination: none;"><span lang="en-US" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 114%;"> I drove the midnight miles from Salt Lake to Boise on Christmas Eve of 2005 because all I had at the time was roots; wings hadn’t yet sprouted. A holiday away from the nest seemed a dismal plummet to the barren ground. In the half decade since, the wings have come, flight has been made. I’m grateful to have a home, communities, invested relationships of whole heart and soul with people and places of not merely my choosing, but divine blessing and opportunity. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 114%; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-pagination: none;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 114%; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-pagination: none;"><span lang="en-US" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 114%;"> From the simple to the harrowing, the known to the unfathomable - I am grateful, immensely and endlessly, for all that this year has been and those I’ve shared it with. I look forward to the advent of 2011, a blank canvas of time awaiting the mark of colorful life, and wish you and yours all the best this season and into the New Year.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="en-US" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">With love,</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-pagination: none;"><span lang="en-US" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">JH</span></div>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-40612509343457091032010-12-23T15:06:00.000-08:002010-12-23T15:39:39.345-08:00International Advent<div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">Over the better part of the last decade, I've p</span>roudly accepted and embodied the Gypsy life, driving hundreds of thousands of miles across western landscapes, eating from the earth, drinking deeply of its waters, living out of a car, a backpack. Countless mornings, I've woken up on some beach, patch of dirt, overturned raft - and sighed a sigh of contentment. I've chosen to be there for critical family moments, friends' milestones, embracing the familiar and beloved instead of pursuing grand scale adventure on an international canvas.<br />
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The <span style="color: black;">idea of going someplace just to blitz through a tick list of tourist stops in a week holds no appeal for me. Cruises, also no appeal. I've seen port cities, they're as contrived as it gets, and the idea of confinement within an overrated floating hotel is revolting. <o:p></o:p></span>I crave to experience time and place in authentic, tangible, true ways.<br />
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I've envisioned a future with a family, where we would make a point of living below our means so that at least biennially, we could approach the world at large with curiosity and open hearts. Take the time to select a destination, acquiring a base understanding of the place and culture, and develop skills that would translate to some specific experience there. As one piece of that family, I'm getting the ball rolling this year.<br />
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</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">Here are the top two prospects...<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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</i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in;"> <b>Iceland</b> via New York City</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in;">Intention: Circumnavigate the country via Ring Road, possibly on bicycle.<br />
Prep: Culture/literature/language study.</div><div><br />
JH</div>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-57485058828935685412010-12-13T13:24:00.001-08:002010-12-13T13:25:45.631-08:00In Other Words...<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #4c1130; font-family: inherit; line-height: 14px;">"Love many things, for therein lies the true strength, and whosoever loves much performs much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is done well." - Van Gogh</span>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-70654193179731290532010-11-07T12:55:00.000-08:002010-12-26T13:47:04.722-08:00First Comes Love I wrote about getting comfortable feeling and <a href="http://jhenke.blogspot.com/2008/12/aluminum-echoes-of-birdsong.html">expressing love</a> in '08, and a year later I wrote about the <a href="http://jhenke.blogspot.com/2009/12/holiday-love.html">pressure to find</a> it. Time for a revisit. My ideas of love have grown up.<br />
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Love is real. I feel it, immensely, for the wonderful people I'm blessed to know. I understand making loyal, serious, whole hearted investments in the lives of others, because I do. I express love for others in word and deed. I just haven't shared it with one exclusive, romantic partner, yet. Not because I don't want to, but because wanting it doesn't mean it's available.<br />
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I am attracted to artistic and intellectual curiosity, to those who have used their time on this planet to drink deeply of all that it offers, allowing it to change and alter them.Within us there are conflicts and contrasts, stories, deep things we don't always want to share or feel we can. Yet all this makes it more difficult; <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Propinquity">the more a person is developed by time and experience, the more articulate their companionship needs become</a>, and the less likely it seems.<br />
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<div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">It happens, though. Freaks find love. Freaky love can be the most inspiring kind. My favorite case-in-point: <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2006/04/09/movies/09kenn.html">Bjork and Matthew Barney</a>. <o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
Thus far, my romantic encounters have been unsustainable and not marriage bound, for reasons I am solid with. I am accountable to my convictions about that. I have things I am striving for, prior to bringing anyone else into the picture - that are eternally important to me, and I'm getting there. The idea of someone else coming into the picture is also becoming increasingly appealing. There are tiny beginnings of space for another person in my world. But there's a catch; I'd rather live and die alone than settle for a fake love* and have to lie to myself about my daily reality. Discerning prospects is half the battle. Actually sticking to the battle, or not seeing it as a battle... that's a part of the equation I don't usually make it to.<br />
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This year has hosted many brushes with love - as a concept, an illusion, a bliss, a reality, something actualized, something given up. Saying goodbye when a romantic situation<i> just isn't right</i> is so difficult. Especially when it's too grey to identify exactly why it isn't right, you're both comfortable and relatively happy...yet you just know it isn't foreva-eva. So it's suck it up, be brave, cut the tie, have faith in the future and soldier onward. More painful in the short term, less in the long run.<br />
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</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">Gah.... I'm going to go eat more post-breakup consolation ice cream now. I am n</span>ot kidding.<br />
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<i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #4c1130;">* Music alert: I highly recommend listening to <a href="http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/search/songs/?query=fake%20plastic%20trees">Fake Plastic Trees</a>, acoustic version, by <a href="http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/search/songs/?query=radiohead">Radiohead</a>. And check out <a href="http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/search/songs/?query=vespertine">Bjork's Vespertine</a> album. </span></i></div>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-89174005376628880392010-10-13T14:48:00.000-07:002010-10-29T13:33:52.152-07:00Creative Release<div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">"If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you,</span></i></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"> </span></i></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="highlight" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: initial; background-image: none; background-origin: initial; border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; color: black; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">what you do not bring forth will destroy you</span></i></span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">."</span></i></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">-from The Gnostic Gospel According to Thomas </span></i></span></span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i><br />
</i></span></span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> Since the advent of my twenty fourth year, I've been living in sin with the tall, darkly handsome Pablo. Calm yourself. I know this is big news.</span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> The deliciously passionate trysts we were meant to share</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> have thus far gone by the wayside, though I yearn for it deeply and ache in awareness of the absence. P</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">riorities that stamp impatient feet and throw vile tantrums when ignored get the best and bulk of my energies</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">. Quiet but equally real needs settle to the bottom of the river Time, forgotten silt left out of its inexorable currents. </span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> Pablo waits, still, without complaint. His silence not insolent but filled with fidelity, eternal patience and profound understanding. </span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> I remember yet again that denying creative energy its nurture and release is putting the soul in a satisfaction chokehold. T</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">ime invested toward deep and personal needs is recouped by lifted spirits - e</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>specially</i></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">when time is its most illusive and menial tasks clamor for undivided attention.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">By all means work, commute, pay taxes, attend to the tedious - and every now and then, give Duty the bird and paint a picture. Even if it is total garbage. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> F</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">or the record, Pablo is an easel. A beautiful creation of finely stained wood given me by a dear and thoughtful friend. We have an upcoming rendezvous with a blank canvas and </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">all the passionate color my liberated heart can throw at it. </span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">;)</span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">JH</span></div>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-46713068180759347432010-09-22T15:52:00.000-07:002010-09-24T09:06:39.916-07:00A Glowing Fire<div class="MsoNormal">I hesitate to call experiences ‘humbling,’ because it’s always seemed to me that the act of declaring humility defies the essence of it. That said...</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">The day after my last post I went in to meet with the faculty advisor overseeing my internship to discuss objectives. I expressed my passion for literacy, and the next thing I know, she’d set me up to meet with a group in the area that coaches adults who struggle to read and write at a fifth grade level.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"> The building was of simple brick, located in a quiet industrial corridor offset from the main commercial artery that cuts through the Salt Lake valley. A receptionist let me in to a locked door at the top of a stairway which led to a basement illuminated by artificial halogen light refracted back from clean linoleum floors. It had a sterile feel and smelled of warm air from printers and copiers, gone stale and still in the dead space of the hallways and their dark rooms. There was a second where it all made me wonder why I’d come. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I picked up the muffled sounds of human voices, following them until a room opened to view. A room full of people and light and laughter. The only common denominator of any of our physical features was that we were all human, but everything from style to iris color to age was represented across the board. They drew me in quickly, introductions were sincere and immediate and within minutes of entering this foreign place, I found myself a world that immediately became part of me. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">There was one man whose image I couldn’t help but seek to capture any time it would escape his notice, something familiar about his movements struck me. Tell tale lines of a lifetime’s expressions carved a decorative surround to his warm, honey brown eyes. His color palette was of burnt copper and earth. These beautiful, stunning elements stuck out to me before I noticed the ragged challenges of a difficult life his image otherwise bore testament to. His writing was some of the most genuine and heartfelt I’ve read or heard and came from the purest place in the human soul. It wasn’t until he spoke to read it, in a gravelly voice of dried tobacco, that I understood my draw to him. He was the living shadow of a friend I have known and loved for years, a resemblance all but buried in the effects of radically different lifestyle. It caught my heart to see familiar fragments of a dear friend reflected back in the eyes of a stranger.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">In my pursuit of personal achievement, I forget that every race requires winners and losers. I forget that the values I grew up learning to embrace, the American Dream, are founded in competition. The AmeriCorps Vista with whom I share desk space said it well today - </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"> "<i>The 'pull yourself up by the boot strap' mentality suggests that through hard work and perseverance one can succeed. I do agree with this statement to a degree; the problem is that it is only half of the equation. Opportunity, or more specifically, the lack of opportunity, is the elephant in the room that no one wants to discuss."</i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;">In our little microcosms, we don’t see the full scale of the lives of those who surround us. Rather, we exist in a place where it’s easier to judge people according to our starting point and standards we’ve held ourselves to, rather than to make an inquiry into what are uniquely theirs and why. I at least am guilty of that. I have never intended to be a harping, insensitive critic – but those are steps I’ve unfortunately tread in my evaluation of the world around me. There are things I’ve taken for granted about my circumstances and the wealth of resources available to me. Even the resource of love I have come to ponder as a strange and perplexing commodity that we are not blessed equally with, either in our reception of or capacity to give, let alone understand.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"><br />
It just harrows me to know and to see firsthand that despite so much abundance in some of the world, there are still people who fall through the cracks. Human lives that get overlooked, people we don't realize can't read nutrition labels, release forms or even junk mail. Whoever said ignorance was bliss was not only mistaken, but knew not the painful and limiting confines of illiteracy.<br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;">There’s a hymn in the canon, I don’t know its origins and can’t find them now, but it says that because I have been given much, I too must give. And so I am, or hope to. And having something to give as well as the ability to do so, I am realizing, is an incredible blessing in and of itself.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;">-JH </div>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-62139248046499913422010-09-13T11:35:00.000-07:002010-09-21T14:02:19.469-07:00Literal ProgressI have about a hundred other things I could and should be doing looking me in the face from the calendar on my wall, the list on the desk, the missed call registry on my phone screen... shut up. Give me a minute.<br />
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We talk of progress - in my country we love it, obsess over it, worship it at times. Progress is a word that by definition becomes enshrouded in shades of grey and ambiguity. People throw the endorsement at all sorts of undeserving things. An unsustainable leap forward in industry riddled with opportunity costs to environmental, social and cultural entities is still called progress, at least until the shine wears off and the endeavor falls on its face and the critics flock like vultures to the remains. A circle progresses in an endless cycle, but does it really get anywhere? Momentum cannot always be considered progress, not all steps forward are headed in a worthwhile direction.<br />
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<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;">I once heard that "</span><i>if it isn't sustainable, it isn't real</i></b>." Take that qualifier to progress and it truly shifts the wheat from the chaff. So, I've sought a more solid, consistent word for the principle of true progress and chosen <b>literacy</b>.<br />
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Literacy is an applied, sustainable, real progression - an individual forming a closer relationship with the world around them through words, understanding, enlightenment. It often doesn't come easily - the costs are harrowing, sacrifices poignant, experience real and deeply human.<br />
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I believe in literacy. By that I mean I give my life, my energy, my passion and my blood for it. It's the principle behind the metaphors in my life - why I climb, why I seek education, why I love people, why I invest in relationships and experiences and life itself. <b>And while illiteracy may not be the most inimical barrier to true progress, it's one I'll happily kick in the teeth all the days of my life.</b><br />
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So here I am. Back in class for the semester and blessed with an internship with an <a href="http://www.slcc.edu/cwc/faq.asp#About">organization</a> that supports literacy as clearly as any, learning the skills I need to contribute to its crusade.<br />
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Still tired, still overbooked. But I'm where I need to be. In the moments that I realize this is tangible progress, these things I am building and will be able to share - conviction burns like fire clear and bright in me, and I forget the costs. I am content, alive and here.<br />
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JHJHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-40138996287355075272010-08-21T11:31:00.000-07:002010-08-21T11:31:55.885-07:00Lessons from the Riv<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">F</span></span>our states, three rivers, many nights under the stars and under the elements, go go go... and rest. In my own house. My own bed. Nesting in for the fall semester, which starts Monday. Dug my heels in this weekend - turned down some boating and climbing invitations in favor of simply just existing in one place, not hounding more highway miles in pursuit of another adventure. Though I do love adventure and the summer has been full of it to a blissful degree. All good things come to an end, and great things are ahead.<div><br />
</div><div>Headed up to Jackson Hole last weekend to run the Snake for the first time, just for fun with friends. Completely gorgeous place, amazing canyon, beautiful water. Loved the section. And playing on the water with friends is a riot, I can't even explain the liberation of taking it all in for recreation's sake vs. guiding. Totally different. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Spent a night at home, did some laundy, threw everything back in the car and headed for Moab. I hadn't been there since last fall - in five summers, that's the longest I've been away. The Colorado Plateau melts me to my core - especially under rainstorm when ruddy waterfalls pour off of Wingate cliffs, when brilliant red stands in the foreground of menacing, ominous black clouds, when entire roads wash away under a crimson flash flood. I saw it all and then some. Reconnected with a batch of people I love. Put in my third trip with a private school from Denver, forty something high school juniors, twenty some canoes, a night of heavy rain and chaos aplenty, and my second unintentional swim of my career. Can I just say that watercraft should be, without exception:</div><div><ul><li>Closed hulled and watertight, i.e. kayak</li>
<li>Self bailing, i.e. a decent raft</li>
<li>Incapable of holding water, i.e. constructed of pontoon flotation, like a cataraft </li>
</ul><div>Canoes are ridiculous. Whoever thought of putting their bathtub in a river and steering it with a silly stick was a primitive being from whom we should have learned and evolved technology to include the above three bulleted conditions. I've guided half a dozen canoe trips in my guiding career,each was special in its own right; and I have at least six reasons that the next time this group calls, it's kayak or no deal. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Going through what would be a benign and unremarkable wave train for a raft, squared up, paddling through the waves, and ten of them break right into the bathtub. Of course it fills up. I'm looking down into the chocolate milk of the Colorado, sitting in my seat still, gear bobbing from its ties, the only thing above water. Canoe is completely immersed up to the gunnels. It didn't even flip. I bobbed out and swam it to shore, got elbows deep with a bail bucket and a few hundred pounds of water, five minutes later back in the current. </div><div><br />
</div><div>My dear friend and co-guide complimented the speed and efficiency of the self-rescue a number of times, and I was like hey thanks, I still swam. It got me thinking though. I'm no canoodler, I'm a friggin' whitewater guide. There are the things that translate - experience, ability to read the current, medical training, knowledge of the environment, authoritative personality. And then there's the actual art and craft of canoe paddling, which I'm novice to. Inexpert. Inefficient. Imperfect. But I sure can haul a drowned bathtub full of junk through a swift current and hammer out a complete recovery in minutes flat. </div><div><br />
</div><div>And so it is with life sometimes. We get swamped, we swim without meaning to, we lose our seat and our footing and occasionally flotation itself. There are times when a good and honest recovery effort is the best you can bring to the table, when a flawless execution was simply outside of your skill set. There's a lot to be said for the fortitude to not give up and be swept away, the humility to make ammends/apology, courage to get back in the saddle and go for it again. I give people credit for that - and if you look, it can be seen everywhere. Humanity is amazing.</div><div><br />
</div><div>And canoodling still sucks. </div><div>;)</div><div><br />
</div><div>JH</div><div><br />
</div></div>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-61126076791134108172010-08-01T22:12:00.000-07:002010-08-21T00:20:12.155-07:00Anniversary Night<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;"><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">One year, one place. Interrupted by many gypsy excursions hither and yon, but the keyholder of one dwelling in the universe for an entire year, as of today. First time in my adult life.</span></div></span></span><br />
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</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: auto;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial;"> An ocean of puffy golden clouds over the Wasatch, crescendo to pink, dissappate, darken. City lights twinkling behind charcoal silhouettes of trees, the last stripe of red flaring over the Great Salt Lake before the sunset is out, snuffed by the shades of enveloping night. Enter on its waves, its obscuring curtains of black - cricket song, cool gentle breeze and motorcycle hum. Salmon baking, bed of rice waiting inside, garlic pepper goodness adrift in the air. All this from the back deck, lower level, same condo, different year. One. Whole. Year. And I'm still here. </span></div></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial;"><br />
</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial;"> I cut my hair today. While driving. On the interstate. Reached for an unsuspecting pair of scissors and lopped my ponytail off. I'd been contemplating a change half seriously, thinking of a birthday rite of passage. Some changes need to happen with no further thought in the moment they're given, though - and so it is and will be. Haggard and choppy until I have time to bask in the opulent radiance of a salon, get it shaped, colored, teased. I won't pretend to mind until then, it wasn't about the aesthetic, but rather the liberation and shedding of a finished history. Time spoke and the blade fell. Hadn't been above the shoulders since middle school.</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial;"><br />
</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial;"> Birthday in a month. Edging in on some of the goals I'd set when musing about it a few posts ago. Cutting useless weight from my hair, frame, habits. Honing in. Simplifying. And honestly, some days still just trying not to drown. All is well though, happy to be alive, in my own shoes and on my own road, crossing state lines ceaselessly, the means to the tying of ever-loosening, unruly ends. I am so nauseatingly, exhaustedly sick of traveling. But I'm at the end of the what-I-wouldn't-give rope - and I'm not giving up what's left for the comfort of sitting still. </span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial;"><br />
</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial;"> It's progress of sorts to have one place I've come back to for a solid year. Like a homing pigeon. Perhaps in years to come, I'll cease to fly the coop and figure out what it really means to be still. </span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial;"><br />
</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial;"> And then again maybe not. This gypsy blood runs strong though wearied, aged and with increased responsibility. </span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial;">JH</span></div>JHhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03562817085428511628noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1034252584059235461.post-37067986365071135812010-07-10T23:24:00.000-07:002010-07-21T02:05:01.300-07:00Front PorchUnberievable. Picked up a wireless signal on the front porch of the <a href="http://jhenke.blogspot.com/2009/07/trailer-by-river.html">Gelco</a>. Internet in this town used to be hard to come by, apparently in 2010, its been gettin' around. Mixed feelings - appalled, bummed, shrugging... maybe I'll just toss the laptop into the Little Salmon once I hit post, I can hear it gurgling along on this starry night. My cell phone's still dead to the world 3 miles from New Meadows, ducking out of society will just be one step less convenient with wireless signals creeping over the land. <br />
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Alive and well in Idaho. For the weight of preparation and reluctance for departure, transition came quick and seamlessly. Different life here, way different. Loving it. Writing often - for pleasure, for art, letters and cards too. Taking a step back in time and leaving the internet and cell phone out of my actual communication routine. It comes highly recommended. Pushing the reset button on programs, paradigms, priorities... <br />
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Been swimming every night, hot springs and river. Rafting most days. Family's been at the cabin. Hiked up the 'trail' to School Marm peak tonight with friends. Wore flip flops, 'cause I wanted to. Didn't bring a camera, 'cause I wanted to selfishly absorb the moment without considering its publicity. Brilliant and stunning, sunset over the bends of the Salmon River, surrounding peaks and snow capped Seven Devils. I will take and post pics at some point, shot a roll of film last week, felt amazing. Ran most of the way down, flip flops and all. Want to do the trail every night I'm in Riggins, good exorcise for the soul, exercise for the cardiovascular unit. And in Riggins, there ain't much else going on besides drinkin and talking trash, the former grows boring from the sidelines and the latter's been done ad nauseum. Local boys on the beach tonight were still talking about their glorified high school football days, a good four plus years ago. Time moves slowly here, it might be time for the old to go out, but the influx of new is sleepy and delayed, so the old stays on replay well past its prime. Speaking of, I'm finding that you can only spend so much time alone with an Ayn Rand novel before you start to go a little nutso. Damn you Atlas Shrugged. <br />
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All in all, things are beautiful. So alive and here that it hurts - no place I'd rather be. I'm not going into any more depth, and not interested in making the language or the post any prettier. Happy, healthy, life is simple. <br />
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Peace and love,<br />
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